August 14, 2011
Starting day care
I’ve been lucky enough to be able to bring Evan with me to work thus far, but the Bring Your Baby to Work program ends at six months. Many have asked what he will do, and apparently my plan to leave him at home with an open box of Cheerios has not been well-received. So, I’ve lined up Day Nursery if that box of Cheerios thing doesn’t work out. Day Nursery is the oldest child care provider in the state of Indiana, and is one of the few non-profit child care agencies in the Indianapolis area. They have seven locations, including one very near our house.
Monday will be a very emotional day (for me more than Evan, I suspect), as we begin this new chapter — one where we are now separated more than 40 hours a week. I am not sure I have been separated from Evan for a total of 40 hours in his life!
But, it must be done. I am not in a situation where I could stay home with him all day, every day, and I’m not sure I’m the kind of person who could do that on a social and intellectual level, even if I could do it on a financial one. I look at child care as the beginning of school — eventually he would be going to elementary school, so we’re just starting his education early.
To keep myself from becoming a sniveling wreck, here’s what I’ll be focused on come Monday:
- I’ll be able to wear jewelry and high heels again since I won’t be toting him around the office any more.
- My walk to the office will be much faster, since I don’t have to load up all his gear and push the stroller four blocks.
- Someone else will change five-sevenths of the diapers (and probably most of the poopy ones!)
- I will be able to use the gym in my office building during my lunch hour (I’ll get back to you on whether that really does happen!)
- I will be able to focus on work at work, which means I’ll be able to focus on Evan after the workday ends. (Again, I’ll get back to you on how much work I still do at home!)
- I won’t have to tell my coworkers when I’m going to the bathroom so they can listen for his cries if he wakes up.
- I will no longer narrate all the activity of my day for Evan’s benefit. (I may still do it for my own benefit, but I’ll try to break that habit.)
- Evan will continue honing his great social skills (he’s closed a lot of client deals in the last three months) and will make lots of new friends at Day Nursery.
- Most of all, I know that Evan is ready for the next stage in his development, and it demands more time, interaction and experience than I have at the moment. The great teachers and assistants at Day Nursery will work with Evan every day on all levels of his development. He’ll have other kids to interact with, and this environment will offer him a great stability and continuity that will enable him to thrive.
Even with all of those great points, I’ll still be wearing waterproof mascara on Monday. I can’t imagine not seeing this face all day.